Wednesday, September 05, 2007

Think before you speak

In today’s fast and busy lifestyle, people never think before making officious remarks about another person no matter whether it is a co-worker or friend or a family member. I have witnessed many relationships are being destroyed /strained by imprudent and careless words. I have also caught in such situations. There is no point in regretting, which can only console your soul not the person whose feeling are wounded. Most of the people around us are sensitive. I know persons who are still in seething years after the offensive comments (It may not have been indented to hurt) are made. Even parents, brothers and sisters carry grudges that live on for years even though they have forgotten what started the fight. They remain angry and distant.

But there is another category of people who always enjoy raising hell about every thing, making offensive remarks, destroying relationships and insulting others by their prevaricated and outrageous behavior. Only thing one can do is to beware of such evil-minded people. They are always in constant hunt for helpless individuals!

The tongue is a knife that can hit someone where it hurts. So always think before you speak!

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Thursday, August 30, 2007

Why We Should Go Home On Time...

Everyday I leave office at 4.45pm after my normal 8 hrs working time. My colleagues used to pull my legs making comments about me leaving everyday at same time when others are working OVER TIME! I’m not against working over time, if the work demands it, I’m upto it. Incidentally one of my friends forwarded an interesting speech by Mr. Narayana Murthy one of the most famous persons in India (for building the biggest IT Empire Infosis) and he is one of the top 50 influential people of Asia according to an Asiaweek publication. Following is the Extract of Mr. Narayana Murthy's Speech:

“I know people who work 12 hours a day, six days a week, or more. Some people do so because of a work emergency where the long hours are only temporary. Other people I know have put in these hours for years. I do not know if they are working all these hours, but I do know they are in the office this long. Others put in long office hours because they are addicted to the workplace.

Whatever the reason for putting in overtime, working long hours over the long term is harmful to the person and to the organization. There are things managers can do to change this for everyone's benefit. Being in the office long hours, over long periods of time, makes way for potential errors.

My colleagues who are in the office long hours frequently make mistakes caused by fatigue. Correcting these mistakes requires their time as well as the time and energy of others. I have seen people work Tuesday through Friday to correct mistakes made after 5 PM on Monday.

Another problem is that people who are in the office long hours are not pleasant company. They often complain about other people (who are not working as hard); they are irritable, or cranky, or even angry. Other people avoid them. Such behaviour poses problems, where work goes much better when people work together instead of avoiding one another.

As Managers, there are things we can do to help people leave the office. First and foremost is to set the example and go home ourselves. I work with a manager who chides people for working long hours. His words quickly lose their meaning when he sends these chiding group e-mails with a time-stamp of 2 AM, Sunday.

Second is to encourage people to put some balance in their lives. For instance, here is a guideline I find helpful:
1. Wake up, eat a good breakfast, and go to work.
2. Work hard and smart for eight or nine hours.
3. Go home.
4. Read the books/comics, watch a funny movie, dig in the dirt, play with your kids, etc.
5. Eat well and sleep well.
This is called recreating. Doing steps 1, 3, 4, and 5 enable step 2. Working regular hours and recreating daily are simple concepts. They are hard for some of us because that requires 'personal change'. They are possible since we all have the power to choose to do them.

In considering the issue of overtime, I am reminded of my oldest son. When he was a toddler, if people were visiting the apartment, he would not fall asleep no matter how long the visit was, and no matter what time of day it was. He would fight off sleep until the visitors left. It was as if he was afraid that he would miss some thing. Once our visitors' left, he would go to sleep. By this time, however, he was over tired and would scream
through half the night with nightmares. He, my wife, and I, all paid the price for his fear of missing out.

Perhaps some people put in such long hours because they do not want to miss anything when they leave the office. The trouble with this is that events will never stop happening. That is life! Things happen 24 hours a day. Allowing for little rest is not ultimately practical. So, take a nap. Things will happen while you are asleep, but you will have the energy to catch up when you wake. Hence, "Love your JOB, but NEVER fall in love with your COMPANY because you never know when the company STOPS loving you”.

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Monday, August 27, 2007

Onam


Today is Thiruonam (Tenth day of Onam). I could never think of missing Onam, it was very special for me but fate has changed everything. Last year we had celebrated Onam with my mother. This year’s Onam, I'm going to miss my mother’s cooking and the joy we used to share with our dear ones on that day! Staying so far away in Malaysia, I can only dream of it! Today I had the same lunch from the nearby bank canteen when everybody was celebrating Onam back home. Those were the golden days which are just memories now! Onam brings back found memories of my childhood. The memories of tying Oonjaal (swings) to the nearby trees, Athapookalam (floral decorations) for the 10 days of Onam and also the adoring memory of my mother giving me an Onakodi (New Cloth). Onam is an occasion for celebration and gives one an opportunity to revisit and fulfill one's responsibility toward his roots, his family, his culture and his soul.

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Tuesday, August 07, 2007

Know-How or Know-Who

I came to Malaysia four years ago and thought it would not be that difficult to obtain a job here. But to my surprise, it was not as easy as I thought! I used to sent many applications to companies here by post and email. But I only finished by the skin of my teeth. Just sitting around and waiting made me antsy. Eventually, I realized that my resume is just another one in the pile and recommendation is an important factor in just obtaining a job interview! Who you know matters more than what you know in job hunting! However when it comes to doing your work, I believe that your competency, diligence and the relevant skills come in and those without a doubt is ultimately where you are measured on!

Sunday, June 03, 2007

WORLD ENVIRONMENT DAY 2007

Sunday, May 13, 2007

Mathru Devo Bhava

Today, thousands of people around the world celebrate Mother's Day by sending flowers and cards to their mothers. I personally don't believe in allocating a particular day for Mothers day. For Indians, everyday is mother's day. There is no day in my life when I am not thinking about my Mother who is my flesh and blood, the reason for my existence in this world - the one person who has stood by me through thick and thin. My mother brought us (me and my sister) up single handedly and she had to pass through so many trials and tribulations! In India in olden days as soon as one wakes up in the morning, the first thing he/she should do is to touch his/her mother's feet and offer his salutations. Our ancient Vedas have rightly declared "Mathru Devo Bhava" meaning "Honor your Mother as God." I think it is appropriate to quote Swami Vivekananda to summarize the Indian motherhood!

"In the West its ideal is wife, in India it is the mother". "In India the mother is the center of the family and our highest ideal. She is to us the representative of God, as God is the mother of the universe. It was a female sage who first found the unity of God, and laid down this doctrine in one of the first hymns of the Vedas. Our God is both personal and absolute; the absolute is male, the personal, female. And thus it comes that we now say: 'The first manifestation of God is the hand that rocks the cradle'." - Swami Vivekananda

Incidentally, today we celebrate the astrological (as per Malayalam calendar) second birthday(pirannal) of our sweet little girl. Happy birthday our dear little baby!

ya devi sarva bhooteshu matru roopena samsthita namastasyai namastasyai namastasyai namo namaha - Devi mahathmyam

Meaning: Salutations to the divine mother, whose art manifest in every being's existence as mother, I worship thee, over and over and over again.

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Thursday, May 10, 2007

A Tradition Worth Upholding

Even though I am residing far-off from my family, I still believe in maintaining robust family ties. However when I look around it is not the situation! Nowadays most people undervalue the family system that is still the most important institution for many Indians like us. The concept of family has also changed over time, now it only consists of father, mother and their children-we call it a "nuclear family"! I am not advocating for the traditional joint family system. It may not be practical in this fast moving world. But I strongly believe that it is possible to sustain healthy kinship bonds between grandparents, uncles, aunts, nieces, nephews, etc. by frequent visits, participation in festivals, celebrations, births, marriages, etc. But in this day and age children are growing up thinking that others can never be their well-wishers and they can trust only themselves - a kind of separation which has become a trait of their persona. For most of the younger generations "I and Me" matter more than "We and Us"! I must mention here that there are some people who take sadistic enjoyment by disintegrating families through creating troubles and making risqué remarks about other members of the family thereby instilling suspicion in their minds in order to make them fight each other! Only way to save the family is to be cautious of such persons!

I used to tell my two-year-old baby that the particular toy belongs to her and so on and so forth. I realized I'm sowing the seeds of separation in her little mind that may become one of the traits her personality later on. I believe an extended family can inculcate values of love, appreciation, peaceful coexistence, spirituality, respect to elders, strong family ties, hospitality, etc in young minds! Currently, it is a trend to defy traditional values and norms by saying that our value system is outdated and labeling it as faux pas! It is true that values will change over time to be in tandem with the changing world order. It doesn't mean to defy everything. I do believe children should be encouraged to be independent and self-sufficient (which was not the case in the traditional joint family) by positively influencing the child's attitude and behaviours. Thus we have to adopt the values that can still make significant positive changes in our and our children's lives! As I look back, I realize that the values I learned from my family are important aspects of my personal identity.

Vedic quotes

Piteva Putranabhi samsuajasva nama | - Atharvaveda
(Let us love each other the same way a father loves his children)

Brahmadwishaha avajahi | - Samaveda
(Destroy hatred by knowledge)

Ugram Vachaha Apavadhihi | - Samaveda
(Do not speak harsh words. Our words should exhibit our thoughts)

Sukritya Mahana Abhyavardhayaha | - Samaveda
(You become noble because of your good deeds)

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Saturday, May 05, 2007

Happy birthday dear little baby!

How fast two years have passed. You are two today! Our sweet little baby's wonderful smile and innocent naughtiness continues to bless our lives to this day(touchwood!). Your wholehearted love and smiles have been our reason to get through many tough times. MANY MANY HAPPY RETURNS OF THE DAY DEAR! HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

We Love you very much our little baby!

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ShotCode for Random Thoughts


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Friday, May 04, 2007

Asatoma Sadgamaya


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Asatoma Sadgamaya
Thamaso Maa Jyothir Gamaya
Mrithyor Maa Amrutham Gamaya
Aum Shanti Shanti Shantihi

- BrihadaranyakaUpanishad (1.3.28)

Meaning: Lead me from the unreal to the real.
Lead me from darkness to light.
Lead me from death to immortality.
May there be peace everywhere.

Aum Poornamadah Poornamidam
Poornaath Poornam Udachyathe
Poornasya Poornamaadaaya
Poornameva Vasishyathe.
-Isa Upanishad

Meaning: God is perfect (infinite). This Universe is also perfect (infinite). If perfection(infinity) is taken from anything perfect (infifinite) what remains is still perfect (infinite). Let there be peace, peace, peace.

Om sahana vavatu sahana bhunattu
Saha viryam karawavahai
Tejasvinavaditamastu
Ma vidvishavahai
Om shanti shanti shanti

-Kato Upanishad

Meaning: Together may be be protected
Together may we be nourished
Together may we work with great energy
May our journey together be brilliant and effective
May there be no bad feelings between us
Peace, peace, peace

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Thursday, May 03, 2007

Know Yourself

A few days ago when I was visiting the Jaya Supermarket in Petaling Jaya, Malaysia, I noticed some people sitting and holding their hands over their heads. I was wondering what was going on! Was it a Reiki session? Or Was it a spiritual gathering? Because of my curiosity, I went and stood near the small crowd to find out what was going on. Then I saw a banner hanging there with the inscription ‘Sahaja Yoga’! One of the volunteers came to me and asked me to join the group and claimed they can change my life in five (5) minutes! I was thinking, all these years I couldn't change my life and now somebody is telling me that he can change my life in 5 minutes??

My life is surrounded by self inflicted bondages and sufferings thereupon. Nowadays the concept of family has changed. When the family has more members, it has become a group of cliques with each having their own agenda and sorrows of their ego-centric existence. Swami Chinmayanada put this as attachment for one’s fellow being a healthy sentiment provided it does not degenerate into emotionalism beyond one’s control.

I have deviated from the previous subject of Sahaja Yoga. Coming back to sahaja yoga; it is about how to achieve balance between many aspects of our life through self knowledge-to understand about us and others (I know how difficult it is!). Sahaja yoga practitioner claimed that through sahaja yoga methods one can awaken the innate power of residual energy within our body (Kundalini). By correcting the seven (7) energy centers (chakaras) one can establish balance between psychological, emotional, social, intellectual and spiritual self. I have experienced the essence of yoga and meditation when I used to go for it at Sivananda Yoga Vedanta center in Trivandrum, Kerala. It really helped me release stress and worries and refreshed my mind. Nowadays I’m not following that (the usual excuses: no time, no mood, etc…)

Shri Mataji Nirmala Devi founded Sahaja Yoga and she was the recipient of the United Nations Peace prize in 1989.

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Wednesday, May 02, 2007

Hunger

After a long time, today I’m experiencing the effect of Hunger again. This has brought me back to the days when I had to satisfy with one meal a day and work all day! That time I was doing fulltime postgraduate study at University and concurrently doing another postgraduate programme from another open university in India. Even though I was eligible for scholarship from government, I didn’t get it due to the usual government red tape! I was struggling to meet ends even though I was doing some part time odd jobs. This situation had continued for several months. I managed to hide it from my family, my friends and others because I abhor sympathy! But one day, one of my best friends, Arun, found out my predicament. He narrated my story to our professor at the university. One fine day, my professor called me to his office and asked me why I hid it from him? From that day onwards he made sure I took proper food everyday! He even arranged an alternate fund to finance my scholarship. In the meantime I obtained another decently paid part time job and I said Goodbye to hunger!

There are so many organizations world wide to fight against hunger and give long tern assistance to people in distress. www.actionagainsthunger.org, www.changingthepresent.org, www.giveindia.org, etc. are some of the organizations specilising in these aspects. Please find time to visit these sites.


Some of famous quotes on Hunger (courtesy: changingthepresent.org):

"When I gave food to the poor, they called me a saint. When I asked why the poor have nothing to eat, they called me a communist." - Dom Helder Camara
"No clock is more regular than the belly." Francois Rabelais
"There is no sincerer love than the love of food." George Bernard Shaw
"The world is split between those who do not sleep because they are hungry and those who do not sleep because they are afraid of those who are hungry." Paulo Freire
"A hungry man can't see right or wrong. He just sees food." Pearl S. Buck

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Friday, April 27, 2007

Werner Heisenberg on human thinking





A famous quote of Werner Heisenberg on human thinking-taken from The Tao of Physisc by Fritjof Capra:-

It is probably true quite generally that in the history of human thinking the most fruitful developments frequently take place at those points where two different lines of thought meet. These lines may have their roots in quite different parts of human culture, indifferent times, or different cultural environments or different religious traditions: hence is they actually meet, that is, if they are at least so much related to each other that a real interaction can take place, then one may hope that new and interesting development may occur.

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Thursday, April 26, 2007

Happy Birthday dear Deepa!

Many many happy returns of the day. You filled my mind with hopes and imparted courage to face the uncertainties we are living through now! Your unconditional support and faith really keeps me going . I cannot forget the trials and tribulations you had to face in the past few years. Hope the coming years will bring happiness and joy in our lives! HAPPY BIRTHDAY MY DEAR WIFE!.

Mind

My mind gets agitated when I see hasty conclusions about "others" by our dear and near and their improper mental attitude towards "others". Even children are getting suffocated by unintelligent love and false relationships created by wrong accentuation on the sentiment of love! An agitated mind adversely affects one's power of intellectual discrimination. Most of the people around us are tormented by worries and anxieties. They are impelled by their self-centered thinking and thereby feeding their ego. As long as one possesses capacity to earn wealth, fame and useful to others there is always an entourage following you, but when your usefulness wanes away the entourage diminishes and is treated with indifference and contempt even by the near and dear ones. One has to rise above silly allurements!

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Friday, April 20, 2007

The Sun Will Shine Again

how far to travel
like an aimless journey
with a chaotic and aching mind

through this dark and forbidding path
in quest of a source of sun shine

the road ahead is like what left behind
at times seen sunshine afar
was mirage when reached near!

They say life is beautiful
but time has made me a child of despair
why did I change?
I miss the days when-
every day was a new canvas for me!
have struggles gone in vain?
perhaps struggles needed perfection

need to rise above sufferings and miseries
the sun will shine again someday

Monday, April 16, 2007

Yet Another Vishu

Today we are celebrating yet another Vishu (വിഷു) in Malaysia with our little daughter who is like a lonely shining star lighting our lives with her innocent smiles! Gone are the days when we celebrated Vishu with contentment and were more spiritualistic compared to today being more ritualistic. It takes me to the good old days of Vishu celebrations (Malayalam astrological new year). Amma used to arrange systematically Vishukani in our pooja (prayer) room the previous daynight in an Uruli (brass pot) with a bunch of green mangos, golden cucumber, betel leaves, tender jack fruit, coconut, cashew apple, rice, a bunch of bananas, a gleaming brass lamp, agarbathi, coins, gold, a bunch of golden coloured “kanikonna” (Cassia fistula or Indian laburnum-Kerala's regional flower) and other paraphernalia. The touch of my mothers palm when she covered my eyes, first sight of the day-the glorious vishukani, the mixed cent of flowers, oil and garbathi were unforgettable experiences. Subsequent to vishukaineetams from my mother and grandparents and visit to nearby Sri Krishna temple we would partake a breakfast of tasty idlis, vada chutney sambar and a sumptuous typical Malayalee lunch on banana leaf.

Vishu signifies the Sun's transit to the zodiac Mesha Mesha Raasi as per Kerala (Indian) astrological calculations.

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Tuesday, April 03, 2007

Reality?

Every time I think about relationships, I get worried because I have seen relationships are based on convenience for most of the people aroud us, no trust among even the family members! We are living in a world that is bizarre where even friendships are capricious. Envy, jealousy, revenge, rudeness, status, etc are ruling everybody's consciousness-there are too many skeletons in the closet! For most people, the most important things in their life are linked to money, power, social recognition,etc. Everyone seemingly leading dual lives! I know in today's world there is no need to get excited or worried about something that is a dime a dozen. Our values and skepticism in these situations can't help, people are learning to come to terms with the hypocrisy and insecurities of the world we dwell in. Everybody is talking about values...but I always wounder where these values have gone? The value erosion is more visible in our society exemplified by dysfunctional families. The erosion of values are demonstarted by daily newspapers which are filled with stories of cheating, crimes, incest, and what not! We(Indians) had a way of life with a rich personality of its own. We are talking about globalisation of economies...now we really need globalisation of our long forgotten values to create a common bond of values between all nationalities, races, culture, etc!

Aa no Bhadraah kratavo yantu vishvatah!
Let noble thoughts come to us from every side!-Rig Veda
1-89-I

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Monday, January 01, 2007

In memory of Father

Today is January first, 2007. So much has happened in 2006-an eventful(?) year! I decided to write about my father on this New Year day.

I was not yet nine when I lost my father. I have only faint memories of my father and even faded memories of calling him “Acha”. My father was born in a poor family at a small village in Trivandrum district. He was very quite and humble person and a man of simple living. Father wanted his children to reach lofty heights. My most precious remembrance about him are some of our trips to Trivandrum museum, temples, cinemas, beaches, Kanyakumari, etc. , other that I cannot recollect any thing about him! We were very young- I was eight years old and my sister was just fiveyears. He was suffering from acute asthma. Every now and then he was admitted to hospital. But unfortunately, due to his weakened constitution, he ultimately succumbed to a bout of asthma. In June, 1978 my father breathed his last in the Trivandrum General Hospital. Unfortunately none of his children nor my mother were present at the time of his demise. The funeral was held at his home. As I am the eldest son I had to light the flame. When the priest asked me to do so, I felt very angry at the people present. Why did they want to burn my father? But I followed their instructions and then I knew my father would never come back again. I lost him forever! Till that date I never knew what death was! How shocking it was! How it can change one’s life! After my father’s unexpected demise we moved from Trivandrum to my mother's place- a small village in Trivandrum district. We started a new life there with new friends in a new environment! I learned that life is about surviving the one's losses and being able to move on. My mother (from whom I learned much more than multiplication tables) single handedly brought us up without letting us feel the absence of a father! I can never forget the trials and tribulations she had undergone all these years.

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Sunday, December 24, 2006

Thinking about money!

I'm posting some thoughts on this blog, after a long period of silence! Just now I happened to read an article on the Hindu news paper on "thinking about money! Incidentally I was thinking about the effect of money on people. It's an interesting study carried out at the University of Minnesota on measuring the effect of thinking about money on one's behaviour! Yes, of course, money may not be the root of all evil but the love of it does seem to make some people more cantankerous, unsociable, aggressive and selfish and I'm personally experiencing the mental torture that this type of people often inflict upon helpless individuals! Personally I believe that a serious counselling is essential for this kind of people.






I've learnedthe value of money at a very younger age itself and how it can affect/change one's life by having /not having! I consider money as not something to be gained or amassed by any and every means. It is to be enjoyed - and certainly a necessity. The fruit of one's labour, it brings peace of mind and is sweet only when it is made by the sweat of one's honest hard work. I have no inherited wealth, nor have any friends or well wishers been magnanimous enough to bestow on me a few millions.



Jonathan Swift's words are more appropriate here - that "a wise man should have money in his head, but not in his heart!"


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